“Red lipstick belongs to working class Latinx women who were out of place in professional or elite spaces, who were sexual and feisty and emotionally expressive, but damn did they look good.”
“Before they come out, cultivate fertile soil in your relationship for them to feel safe giving you that information. Find ways to inject positive affirmations for gay, queer, transness in passing (e.g. sharing a meme or an Instagram account that talks about queerness in a positive light, talk about someone else you know who is queer in an affirming way).”
“There's definitely a feminine shame and this deeply rooted odorless gas of misogyny that appears in every single way we interact with this world. It's so wild to me that we’re so deeply cultured to hate women that we can't even have feminine qualities.”
“I love that by just being queer, you’ve been given permission to be extraordinary. Not extraordinary in the sense that you have a superior ability or are fundamentally better than anyone, but extraordinary in that you are different than the rest of the population and by definition, you are extraordinary. I think there’s something about that that is really beautiful and that every queer person or anyone on the spectrum should lean into.”
“I have worked on stories with radical faeries, sex workers, queer witches, gay farmers, trans hikers, Pulitzer-winners, and some deeply intellectual sluts. I have edited stories of love, loss, addiction, abuse, rape, racism, trauma, incest, grief, cancer, suicide, isolation, survival, and good, old-fashioned heartbreak. Braver and braver, and more honest than ever, you are all the stories I craved as a naive and glitter-eyed queer in the cool kid bookstore five years ago, and for that I thank you.”
“I will go out of my way to make a straight man feel insecure,” he adds. “I use my femininity to intimidate them.”
"I don't believe in work-life balance because my work is the most life-giving thing that I do."
“I am very lucky and flattered that people within my audience refer to what I do as 'activism,’ but I myself do not think of it as activism, and I will never call myself an ‘activist.’ Last year, I quit my full-time advertising job, not to become an activist, but because any time spent not doing what I do now — giving voice to the queer community, creating space for queer voices, advocating for queer change, curating multiplicity of queer perspective, and researching/documenting the lives of queer people — felt like wasted time [...]”
“It’s the thot that counts. Your fave queer podcast Food 4 Thot teamed up with Greenbox to create a custom line of tees with their designer Ben Wagner, and they are gay as hell. Celebrate your thottery with smarts, sex positivity, and unabashed queerness. Proceeds benefit the Trans Law Center, so you can thot it up for a good cause. Shop away, and oh yea, subscribe to the podcast.”
“I have people that have come to me and said, “Oh my god I don't have any gay friends, I don't have any queer friends,” and I'm all like, “I haven't seen a straight person in nine days.” I want to share my experience with other people.”
“In 2018, representation and inclusion are not the exception, they’re the expectation,” Tirado said in an interview with Mic. “We are no longer going to give brands a cookie simply for ‘showing up,’ because showing up is the bare minimum requirement. If we don’t hold brands accountable to a higher standard, they will continue to profit on the commodification of our identities using half-baked ideas that fail to nuance the everyday queer experience and end up communicating very little for our cause.”
“In today's cultural climate, I seek any opportunity I get to make a statement, to appear boldly and politically in a faggy earring, a deep red nail polish, or pink highlighter. The more the general public sees men or masculine-of-centre folks wearing makeup in their everyday, the closer we get to blurring the lines of gender in this oppressed culture we live in."
“To know Fran is to know the light inside of yourself you often dim, because you want to fit in. His work, as well as his being, is important for this reason. Fran’s commitment to building spaces that nurture queerness is his way of telling people, while reminding himself, that we were born to stand out.”